Nowadays, even a small issue makes people quit the marriage, or at least start thinking about it; situation also gives them chance to break the relationship.
We need to understand that everyone is an amazing personality, everybody has their own skills which make them different from others.
We should not criticize them by comparing with others.
1:- Respect your partner.
Think about it, when people show you respect, how does it make you feel about them? On the other hand, when people DON’T show you respect, how do you feel about them?
Respect others, when you do that and try your best, you get the respect back.
- Listen to your partner.
By listening to someone carefully and showing interest in his/her talks, by expressing genuine interest in someone’s qualities, hobbies, career, or anything else closely connected to that person, you will give them a gift- a sense of importance, well being and value.
There is a difference between simply listening to people and listening with deep interest. Listening with interest signifies that you really care about what they are saying.
- Make eye contact.
Look into your partner’s eyes and imagine the situation he is sharing with you, take the matter seriously, it can make you the most important person for your partner. He/she will feel that there is someone who is always available to listen in every condition.
- Use romantic body language.
Hold your partner’s hand into yours, move your hand on your partner’s body. Tell your partner that everything would be fine very soon.
Also, Understand that body language is a skill which can help you to get the love back. Body language can be the language of love. If you’re partner gazes, sitting close to you and pointing towards you/your body, then you should understand that your partner is romantically interested in you.
Stand facing one another, avoid crossing your arms, and lean in towards one another when you speak.
- Smile at your partner.
When you smile, you forget all your worries and pain, Smiling makes you appear more approachable.
Interaction with him/her is easier and more enjoyable when smiles and laughs are shared, and these behaviors are contagious. It makes you a more appealing and attractive person to be around. This, in turn, will have a positive effect on your well-being.
A smile would definitely bring you closer.
2 :- Make your communication strong.
If your partner tells you there is a problem, you need to take that statement seriously.
Work on solving the problem, either alone or together, but make sure you take your partner’s concerns seriously. It would make your life happy.
- Never yell/ shout at your partner.
Never shout at your partner. When you have an argument, your emotions may be running high.
Yelling at your spouse will only have one of two results: either your partner will yell back or you’ll be, it’s a damaging situation that can put a huge strain on your relationship.
Also, you won’t be able to take back those hurtful words later when you’ve calmed down. Avoid arguments when you are upset.
- Remove misunderstandings.
Majority of arguments are the reason of misunderstanding. There are many reasons for that, and they can all lead to communication problems.
A misunderstanding could be the result of several things or some combination thereof:
- a) Something that wasn’t said/shown by the person but you reacted.
- b) You didn’t hear /understand something properly whatever was said by someone.
- c) Didn’t know how to say something to someone but you spoke to prove yourself.
- d) You thought you said something that you really didn’t, and then take a wrong action.
- e) Misreading body-language and shout on the person.
Do not allow misunderstanding in your relationship, be ready to understand everything and avoid it.
- Do not blame, Work on solving the problem.
Most of the time when something happens wrong, we blame the person who suggested us and starts the arguments instead of solving the problem.
Some solutions may not be possible due to other problems, but we should try endlessly.
It is important at this stage to also consider what might happen if nothing was done to solve the problem, sometimes trying to solve a problem that leads to many more problems require.
Some very creative thinking and innovative ideas, so instead of fighting, if we focus together.
Avoid blame. In a healthy marriage, each partner takes responsibility for his/her own thoughts, feelings, and words. You have a choice that how you respond to each other.
- Forgive each other.
Forgiveness and trust are very intimate issues, Allow your partner the time he/she needs to develop these qualities and allow yourself the same thing.
Don’t panic if these don’t develop immediately.
Forgiveness is immensely practical and helpful. Forgiveness sets you free. As you learn to forgive many problems will gradually disappear.
3- Refuse to quit.
“It’s better to bend a little than to break.”
A marriage won’t be rebuilt overnight. It will take time to recognize and change long-established patterns of communication and trust.
Try your level best to keep your relationship strong.
- Be open and honest with each other.
Agree to be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s the key to a healthy relationship. Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make a mistake instead of making excuses.
You will feel better and it will help strengthen your relationship. Be open and honest with each other.
Honesty is very important in a relationship, especially if you’re married. Never lie to your partner.
Even a small lie, share If something bothers you, Tell your spouse your secret hopes and dreams, your deepest fears, and other things that you keep hidden.
Let your partner open up and be vulnerable with you. This can help you to build trust between you.
- Accept the simplicity and be original
Be original and simple to your partner, you don’t need to make some advance efforts to prove yourself which you can’t afford.
Simply do the things which you like most and your partner can understand too. One day life will open up in front of you. New opportunities will emerge as if from nowhere.
If you are original then Ideas or answers will come to you just as you need them, then automatically you would be best for your life partner.
- Develop conflict management skills.
Conflicts can make your relation weak, small arguments and assumptions bring conflicts.
Try to ignore conflicts, do not overreach unnecessarily. It doesn’t matter how long you have been together, there will always be things you don’t know about one another.
Spotting an assumption is not always easy, but, generally, you are probably making an assumption when you feel rejected, neglected, hurt.
Instead of assuming you know anything about your partner, make an effort to ask questions and maintain an open dialogue with one another instead of conflicts.
- Do not insult your partner about his/her weaknesses.
It is true that we always try to show our capabilities to others and intentionally or unintentionally we comment on the person about his or her weakness.
Maybe he or she never speaks but somewhere it hurts. Whenever we talk to the person we should try to ignore the topic in which he/she is not comfortable.
Nobody would be open and honest to us if we would not respect and care about his or her feelings.
4- Love your partner and spend quality time.
We should spend real, quality time with our partner, in which we slow down and make contact.
We should show our feelings, not just in words but in our body language.
Saying “I love you,” while grimacing or sighing at every move our partner makes is not an expression of love that matches what we supposedly feel.
- Express gratitude for the little things/appreciate.
When you feel thankful, grateful, and content in your own life and in your own experiences then you will find that want less, You’ll find that you’re actually more satisfied with where you are and with what you already have in life.
Make a true connection with your partner and be grateful to have in your life by giving hugs when greeting, saying goodbye, or saying thanks.
- Take a romantic vacation together/Go on a date.
Romance needs to be a normal and necessary part of our lives. Take out some time for your partner from your busy schedules.
Love, romance, care to give you pleasure. Go out and spend some time with your partner. You would feel fresh, it would boost the energy into your relationship.
- Be self-reliance/Develop a growth mindset.
The growth mindset believes trouble is just important feedback in the learning process.
As we become self-reliant, we are also better able to serve and care for others.
Self-reliance is the ability to depend on yourself to get things done and to meet your own needs.
- Accept your fault.
Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s the key to a healthy relationship. Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make a mistake instead of making excuses.
You will feel better and it will help strengthen your relationship.
5- Change yourself.
Focus on changing yourself. One of the reasons a marriage deteriorates is dissatisfaction with one’s own life.
Rather than looking to your spouse to provide for you the life you want, try making some of these changes yourself.
- Let go of the past.
If your partner does something that makes you angry, you need to tell them about it. But you don’t have to do so right away. If you’re still hurt, say something. If not, consider forgetting about it.
If you don’t speak up when you’re upset, there is no way for them to apologize or change.
Once you do mention your hurt feelings and your partner sincerely apologize, let it go. Don’t bring up past issues if they’re not relevant.
- Ask for the help if you need.
Being honest about your own challenges will help you rebuild your marriage. Look for areas where you can improve, whether these are large or small.
Asking for help can solve your problems easily. Don’t be shy to take help from each other. Keep equality and treat well.
- Be a problem solver.
If something is bothering you and you would like to have a conversation about it, it can be helpful, find the right time to talk.
If you got hurt and you are blaming others then you would only create a new problem for yourself. Don’t be angry. Being impulsive can hurt you again.
Be calm and share the problem with your partner. Try to find the solution.
- Always look for the compromise.
Agreeing to do some of the activity that your partner wants to do but adding in your ideas as well so that the whole activity is a true combination of both your perspectives and desires.
There would be no ifs and buts if we truly take care of each other’s comforts.
Both of you need to give up something, not just one of you. Try to also compromise in a positive way, rather than always sacrificing.
6-Think before you speak.
Thinking is our inner voice and speech is the same, just out loud. It’s our external voice
Trying to prove how smart we are is just one of the bad habits that leads us to speak without thinking. Another is speaking when angry or out of control.
- Check your intonation.
Intonation is very necessary for a conversation. It can make or break. If we talk to someone, we should take care of the voice modulation.
Most of the time people shout whenever they speak or use very boring intonation. People do not take interest in boring tone. They simply ignore the person. Also whenever someone shouts, he/she loses respect.
In a relation, if you are polite and use correct intonation then it can make you feel special and loving.
- Use the right words.
When we speak, we don’t think. We search. If you can’t find something thoughtful to say, just don’t say it. If you don’t have an answer, don’t give one.
You may be surprised at how others change their perception of you with this simple trick. To avoid this dishonest way of relating, it’s important to always act with integrity and make our actions match our words.
If we say we are in love, we should engage in behaviors toward our partner that someone else would observe as loving.
- Never use double meanings which can hurt.
Double meaning words not only create misunderstanding, but it also makes your partner frustrated at some point in time when he is really upset.
When you both had the arguments and you use the double meaning words, It can put you in trouble.
Your partner would think that you only pretend not actually love, therefore you got a chance and started commenting on him/her.
Observe situations, even if they are bad, even if they are good, never use double meaning.
- Don’t say the bad words.
You know that once you spoke something then you cannot take those words back to you which can make a person weak.
Using bad words can be a battle for both of you. If you find yourself feeling angry or frustrated, take some time apart from one another to calm down.
Remember that you are in a relationship because you wanted it, and if you want something then you need to care for that.
To love and be loved is just awesome. Love drives people into doing the most unthinkable stuff in the world. Just enjoy it.
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